Building good character is a process that never ends. We may experience success, and then failure. The key to being a good person, though, is to keep trying. This page contains some ideas and wisdom in being as good a person as you can be. Keep trying. No one is perfect, but we can all be better.
How to stop taking things personally
1. Realise that other people's rudeness is not about you. When someone is rude, it's likely to be a reflection of their own issues.
2. Ask yourself what else the comment orbehavior might mean. For example, if someone doesn't smile or say hello, they might be shy.
3. Take comments or criticism in a constructive way. As yourself if there's any truth to it, and what you can learn.
4. Take a different perspective. Ask yourself how an unbiased outsider would see the situation.
5. Realise that you can't please everyone.
6. Know that you're not defined by your mistakes or criticism.
7. Realise that your self-worth depends on you. It does not depend on what others say about you.
10 Social Skills Every Kid Should Know
Introduce yourself - self-confidence of this sort goes a long way
Asking for help - if you don't ask, you don't get
Following instructions - need I say more?!
Staying on task - you cannot succeed if you don't stick to it!
Disagreeing appropriately - be constructive in your disagreement
Accepting "No" for an answer - you can't always get what you want
Showing appreciation - everyone needs to hear 'thank you'
Making an Apology - it's important. be sincere.
Controlling emotions - it's hard to do. Practice.
Accepting consequencings or criticism - you make choices, consequences come with those choices.
How To Be A Good Friend
1. Be a good listener. Don't interrupt. Maintain eye contact. Give supportive advice only if asked.
2. Be honest. and keep what s/he says private.
3. Be loyal. If you hear people talking about your friend, stand up for him/her.
4. Be supportive and offer honest comments that let him/her know that s/he is not to blame.
5. If you have a disagreement, be assertive but not aggressive. Ask for what you want in a firm but respectful way without intentionally hurting your friend.
6. Be proactive. If you know someone who has been bullied and has no frieds, reach out to him/her.
7. Introduce him/her to your friends. Say nice things about the new friend to other people.
How Not to Care When People Don't Like You
It's okay to feel the pain - humans are social creatures and to be rejected hurts.
Know that it's not (totally) your fault - we all act out of our own insecurities and unique experiences, and for the most part, being disliked is a measure of mutal compatability.
Watch for signs of your own bad behavior - While you shouldn't always blame yourself if someone doesn't like you, if you're finding this a pattern, you may want to take an unbiased look at your own behavior.
Remind yourself that making new friends is no easy task - Changing your social circle can be isolating; it's when you're most likely to feel disliked or suffer from social anxiety.
Spend extra time with the people who do like you - Even if you find yourself on the outs with some folks, chances are, you've at least got a few people you can rely on when you're feeling low.
Keep in mind that the best way to make genuine friendships is to be genuine yourself.
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Ten Steps to a Happy Child
1. Listen when they talk.
2. Let them expres their feelings and validate them.
3. Point out their strengths with compliments.
4. Encourage their friendships with other great kids.
5. Teach them to pay attention to others' feelings.
6. Avoid excess screen time (stay off social media).
7. Let them have some relaxed playtime every day.
8. Eat dinner as a family.
9. Let your happiness show.
10. Tell them you love them - every day!~)
8 Sentences that will change your child's life.
1. Great minds discuss ideas.
2. Two things matter: Honesty and Respect.
3. Be kind. Everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle.
4. If you don't step forward, you will always be in the same place.
5. If you don't ask, you don't get.
6. Your words are powerful. Use them wisely.
7. Will this problem matter a year from now?
8. Great achievements require time.
How the Mind of a Middle Schooler Works
Middle school studetns typically have an attention span of 10-12 minutes
Teens learn best throuhg interaction and activity
Middle schoolers retain 5-7 bits of information at a time
The brain growht that occurs between the ages of 10-15 is the greatest in human life
Adolescents misinterpret emotions and instructions up to 40% of the time
Adolescents need 9-13 hours of sleep per night to function best.
The Four Agreements (Miguel Ruiz)
1. Be Impeccable With Your Word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don't Take Anything Personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a porjection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. Don't Make Assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. Always Do Your Best. Your best is going to chance from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.
How to challenge cognitive distortions
How do I know if this thought is accurate?
What evidence do I have to support this thought or belief?
How can i test my assumptions/beliefs to find out if they're accurate?
Do I have a trusted friend who I can check out these thoughts with?
Is this thought helpful?
Are there other ways that I can think about this situation or myself?
What or who else contributed to this situation?
Is this really in my control?
Am I overgeneralizing?
Am I making assumptions?
What would I say to a friend in this situation?
Am I assuming the worst?
Am I holding myself to an unreasonable or double standard?
Are there exceptions to these absolutes (always, never)?
Am I making this personal when it isn't?